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Call it Lovemaking, not Sex! (1)

By Jane Peters

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THIS week we would dive into our sexual world to discover the real difference between sex and lovemaking.

It is specific and unarguable that there are apparent differences between death and sleep. Although they have some common features, they are incomparable; such is the case of sex and lovemaking.

With my little personal experiences and the little tips and gist that I gathered from others’ encounters, I have concluded that indeed there’s a striking disparity between both of them.

Be honest to yourself, tell me, amongst all your sexual escapades, is there no remarkable difference between one and another. Would you deem all of them worthwhile and as fun-filled as the other? No, I don’t think so.

In as much as I don’t advocate for multiple sexual partners, but I know that at one time or the other in our respective sexual lives, we must have sampled more than one sexual ‘ports.’ So based on that, we should be able to determine which sweetened us the most.

From my angle (not experience oh), I understand that love-making is more involving, deeply emotional, and more exciting than sex. 

Besides, some ladies (myself inclusive) find it very disgusting when you say you had sex with them or want to have sex with them.

They would rather prefer you tell them that you want to make love to them rather than using the word ‘sex.’ 

In fact, every couple has slang for making out. Some call it Lash, Knack, Let’s go and ‘Do Business’ or We have some pending ‘Transactions, Farming time and lots more.

Generally, sexually active ladies see ‘Sex’ as a harsh word for such an exhilarating and pleasurable mutual act. They believe that such a name is to be used only on call girls; prostitutes.

Honestly, if my boyfriend comes to me with his charged and nodding John Thomas, trickling me at the right places while I pretend not to notice his ‘I-want-you-mood,’ then he utters the word like “baby come on, I want to have sex with you,” he would be doomed for that day. He would have to go to the toilet with cream or soap to serve his capital punishment alone, or he would withdraw such a wacky request and make it right.

You guys know how it’s like to be deeply in the mood; all your veins stretched out, your hormones boiling, and your ‘super hero’ nodding and begging to ‘enter the place.’ You are eager and firmly believe that indeed, that bushy little hole would welcome and retain you in her bottomless ocean of sexual pleasure and excitement, but suddenly, she withdraws totally from the act because you dared to use the term ‘sex’ on that beautiful moment you guys were at the verge of savoring together.

At that point, you would be willing to do anything she asks of you, just to get rid of the unholy fluid holding your sexual system captive.

You should be able to use mild words like “sweetie, (or any pet or sweet names you call her). I am in the mood to be buried in your sweetness, or can you take me to cloud nine?” That definitely sounds better and more inviting than the former. With such enticing words of invitation, I bet you she would be ready and willing to take you to the highest cloud of sexual ecstasy.

Lovemaking, as the name implies, has to do with two lovers embedded and interlocked in each other’s arm and body. It’s sexual intercourse that has to do with love (in-depth or shallow love) and mutual feeling. You devote your time, energy, and skills to make your partner have a swell time. After each round, you keep asking for more because you are in love and definitely insatiable. You would want to eat him or her all up…..to be continued next week.

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