‘Foster open communication: Encourage your children to express their thoughts and feelings openly and honestly, and make sure to listen to them actively and without judgment. Validate their emotions by making them know that you understand what they are going through, and that you will always be a safe space for them. This will help them feel heard and understood, and will strengthen your relationship’
EVERY child is a result of how they have been programmed, and our actions as parents on a daily basis either programs the child positively or negatively.
The family unit is the bedrock of the society, it has therefore become imperative to program and raise children effectively such that they grow up to become responsible citizens.
Here are 5 tips to help you program your children positively and effectively;
☑️ Set clear expectations and rules : Clearly communicate to your children what is expected of them in terms of behavior, responsibilities, and routines. This will help them understand what is acceptable and what is not, and will make it easier for you to hold them accountable. Most times, parents are not clear with their expectations for their children. Telling a child who is still learning to process information to clean up after his meal might not get you the result you want. Rather, telling the child you want him to take his plate to the kitchen after his meal, and then come back to clean the table will be well understood by the child. We must understand that children develop at different rates, and so what is easily understood by Child A, might be misunderstood by Child B, therefore, giving children clear information about our expectations from them is very important.
☑️ Develop a routine : Having a consistent daily routine can help children feel secure and help them develop good habits. This could include regular bedtimes, meal times, and activities like homework and chores. Children thrive on routines. They need to have an idea of what their day looks like, they need to have a grasp of the activities that happen in their home on weekends, holidays, or on weekdays. Routines also help children stay accountable, which in turn builds responsilbilty in them.
☑️ Encourage independence : Help your children develop the skills they need to be independent and self-sufficient. Encourage them to try new things and make their own decisions. Give them the opportunity to make choices. Expose them to a variety of learning resources. When you always rush in to do things your child can do for himself, you are not empowering the child in any way.
☑️ Foster open communication: Encourage your children to express their thoughts and feelings openly and honestly, and make sure to listen to them actively and without judgment. Validate their emotions by making them know that you understand what they are going through, and that you will always be a safe space for them. This will help them feel heard and understood, and will strengthen your relationship.
☑️ Prioritise quality time: Make time for activities and discussions with your children. This could include things like reading together, going on outings, or having regular family dinners. When you are with them, be emotionally present, not just physically present. Be in the moment, let them see and know that they have your full attention.
Parenting is not a walk in the park, we must therefore be committed to putting in the effort required to raise future-fit children who can thrive in today’s world.
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